I read an article today about a couple who was once engaged. They broke up because the groom-to- be allegedly cheated. They called off the wedding and then went to court. Why? Well, apparently, the bride didn’t feel like returning the engagement ring (valued at $9,000). My automatic response was to say good for you, sister. I mean he cheated on her, right? And, it was a gift. Not to mention that the whole concept of engagement jewelry originated as a gesture of good faith between potential suitors. Back in the old days, when women were viewed as property, a suitor would provide her with a token promising the family that he would take her off their hands, if he failed to do so the token was theirs to keep.
Well, clearly things have changed. Women are not property, but we do have a timeline for being marketable. Young women have a better chance of getting married off when their still fertile and still pretty, so if a man takes her “off the market” for any reasonable amount of time, the ring should serve as compensation, no?
Well, the judge didn’t agree with me. On March 30, Justice F. Dana Winslow ruled that the bride had to return the ring, saying state law allows a person to get property back that was given “in contemplation of marriage” and that “fault in the breakup of an engagement is irrelevant.” What do you think? Do you agree with the judge’s decision?
I think that if I paid 9,000 for a ring and we didn't get married yet is unfair. I agree with the judge I can see where you coming but, what if they were just engaged for a few months? I mean it can go either way but, I think the right decision was made. Thats a lot of money spent and can be used to benefit himself instead of lose 9,000 dollars to a woman he's not going to marry.
ReplyDeleteThe judge made the right decision. The ring was purchased with the intent to symbolize a marriage relationship. The man was wrong for cheating yes, and he should suffer for that, but today we live in a society that accepts cheaters and liers so what can you do? If cheating is the issue then address the cheating in a beneficial way. The ring however is a different issue entirely and should be returned to the man, especially considering that it is symbolizing something that no longer exists. She shouldn't hold a grudge either because it's not worth her time. The ring should be returned.
ReplyDeleteI do not agree with the judges decision.Personaly I think when you give someone a gift it should be kept no matter what.If justin changed his mind then he should of cancled the wedding.However he did not do this and was cought.Now hes being selfish and irresponsible by taking back the ring.He shouldnt have gotten the ring back.
ReplyDeletePersonally, i wouldn't want his ring after he's cheated on me. Why would she want this thing that's supposed to symbolize that guy's love for her, yet he cheated on her? Why would she want to be reminded of that every time she looks down at her finger? He bought the ring, its his to do whatever with. Maybe he'll give it to that girl he cheated with. Haha. Like, what is she really gonna do with it? Sell it? Regret even saying yes to this guy every time she looks at it? It just seems stupid to want to keep it. Don't most girls throw it back at the guy after something like that?!
ReplyDeleteI don't really agree with the judges decision. The woman should be able to keep the ring no matter what. The ring was given to her to show his love to her, wanting to marry her. It was his fault for cheating on her and he should suffer. If he loved her he shouldn't have cheated. The judge should not really decide over the little things.
ReplyDeleteIF some one would of cheated on me I would of left them.
ReplyDeleteI believe that the judge made the wrong decision. I believe that once a gift of any kind is given, the person receiving the gift is now the new owner of whatever it maybe. In this case we are talking about an engagement ring. To me that is a gift symbolizing one's love for another.
ReplyDeleteTherefore, if the ring was a gift it should belong to the girl whom it was given to. The price of the ring should be irrelevant.
I agree with the judge. The fact that he cheated is irrelevant to the amount of money he payed for her engagement ring. It has always been that an engagement ring symbolizes the love and trust that both partners feel for each other. Yes, it also symbolizes that a woman is taken, but things change when someone in the relationship has cheated. He cheated, wasted 9,000 on a ring for a woman that he couldn’t be faithful to, and he should receive the ring back. Why would she keep it? I wouldn’t want to remember him after deceiving me.
ReplyDeleteMy agruement has to go with the judge. To start things off the groom did wrong in the first place for cheating on his so called engaged bride. Depending on exactly when he cheated could show a sign right there that for him he wasn't ready for such commitiment in a relationship. So why did he buy the ring in the first place? Anywho I agree with EmGuap, why would the bride want to keep such a ring in the first place to remind her of the wrong doing her once engaged groom has brought upon her.
ReplyDeleteI think the judge is wrong because the ring was a gift showing that he loved her. A gift is something that you give someone not expecting anything back in return so why should it be different here. It shouldn't be a gift you only get to keep if things go well, it should be something you get to keep no matter what. If then she decides she doesn't want it then she can give it back.
ReplyDeleteShe should be able to keep the ring but she should sell the rign and go on a long vacation to the caribbean islands and find a man that really loves her.
ReplyDeleteI believe that the judge is wrong but it shouldnt be blamed on him because that's his job. He can just be like... yeah you can have the ring because he cheated on you...that's not how it works. I feel as though the girl should've been able to keep it just because the fact that he cheated on her. If they would've just broken up for a different reason then thats the only way she should give the ring back. I give her props for sticking up for herself because she deserved that ring. he shouldnt've cheated on her and that's why she should've gotten the ring.
ReplyDeleteI agree would have to disagree with the judge's decision. The man cheated on her, and shouldnt be reimbursed $9,000. The woman did nothing wrong and lost the most. The man gets the ring and gets out of the relationship he obviously did not want enough to keep, I think that's unfair.
ReplyDeleteI think the judge made the right decision. Even though the groom-to-be cheated on the women that does not mean that she has the right to keep a ring that cost 9,000.
ReplyDeleteI think that the two members of the relationship should have to pawn off the ring and split the money that they receive for it. The woman may have been blindsided by her cheating ex-fiancee, but we don't know the full story. She could have been a crazy psychopath who was stalking the man, but that doesn't mean that one of the two deserve the ring more than the other.
ReplyDeleteWell, im not too sure how I feel about this because it can be seen as unfair to either person. The guy wants the ring back because he spent so much money for it. Would he still want it back if he paid alot less? Also, I dont understand why she would want to keep the ring. If he cheated why would she wanna keep a token of their "love"? This is a complicated situation and it's a shame that it had to be taken this far, especially if they were engaged nd supposed to be married.
ReplyDeleteIf this guy wasn't completely committed to becoming engaged in the process of getting married, he wouldn't have bought this woman the gift of an engagement ring. I think that if you offer someone a present, no matter how expensive, it's your responsibility to suffer the consequences if, in the end, it was a stupid idea. He obviously didn't understand what it means to get engaged and start the process of becoming united as man and wife, not man and wife and mistress(es). I think it's a fair compensation. The man was obviously not a smart guy to cheat or give such an expensive ring to someone he didn't care too much about.
ReplyDeletePersonally I don’t understand why people have to spend so much on a wedding ring in the first place. If a guy and a girl really love each other then the value of the ring shouldn’t even matter. He didn’t have to spend that much on the ring but he chose to spend 9,000 on it. Just like he chose to cheat on her. If it wasn’t for the simple fact that he cheated on her they’d be married and there would be no issue. That was a gift it wasn’t something that he lent her so why should he expect it back?Maybe it’ll teach him a lesson and he’ll keep it on his pants next time :)
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